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self-critical and think that they are not to imitate their state of mind because
Operation: good enough no matter how much they they are the perfect role models from

achieve. Taking academics as an example, our point of view. For example, we could

Self-Confidence no matter how high of a mark they get, take the stereotypical “Asian Family” as a
they will think that it is not enough and
reference. Infamously, Asian parents tend
that they should be able to get higher to criticise the decision-making of their
Jointly reported by: marks if they just worked harder, just put children. The child, now influenced by
Eanne Khoo Jr1Z(1) in more effort. They would start blaming their parents, will set very high standards
Lee Xue Rui Sr1ScF
themselves and the perpetual cycle of in order to please themselves, resulting in
Illustration by Chew Ni Jie Sr1ScA self-hate and self-doubt would continue. self-doubt and self-confidence problems
accompanying them into adulthood. It
sounds like a never-ending nightmare set
We arrived at the library and settled M i s co n cep t io n s a b o u t s e lf-co nfiden ce Those with low self-confidence can be on a loop, but we can break the chain if
Misconceptions about self-confidence
down for the interview session while a n d s e lf-es t e em easily stressed and are usually stressed we realise that it’s unhealthy for us.
and self-esteem
the sounds of students playing volleyball because they believe they are not good
still lingering in the background. We enough. Again, they critique themselves

moved into the glass room located on Self-esteem refers to whether you in a harsh and unrealistic way. Being
the first floor of the library. My team appreciate and value yourself. Your self- pessimistic in most situations, they
and I got ready for the heart-to-heart esteem develops and changes as a result always assume the worst of things and
conversation we were about to have with of your life experiences and interactions focus on their failures. They are socially

our interviewee, Teacher Teoh Sim Boon. with other people. Self-confidence is your awkward, which probably causes them to
belief in yourself and your abilities. This have few friends. On the other hand, if
can change depending on the situation. they do have friends, they would always With this in mind, let’s check
Our interviewee, Teacher Teoh graduated It’s normal to feel quite confident in agree with them on things even if they out a few ways to up your

from UPM with an Education in some circumstances and less confident in have their own opinion, and in general confidence with Teacher Teoh!
Psychology and Counselling. Life wasn’t others. In this article, we will be focusing will become a “Yes man”. In actuality,
all smooth sailing for her in the initial on the aspects of self-confidence. being a “Yes man” just makes people not
stages. She faced some challenges and appreciate them and take them lightly, 1. Say positive words to yourself

eventually strayed further from her dream worsening the relationship. (or deduct the number of
Characteristics of Someone Who Lacks
job related to psychology, instead ended C h a rac t er i s t ics o f S o m e o n e W h o L ac ks negative thoughts day by day)
Self-confidence
up doing more administrative work. S e lf-co nfiden ce 2. Appreciate yourself
After eight years of bumping around and F ac t o r s R es u l t in g in L o w S e lf-co nfiden ce 3. Write something good that
Factors Resulting in Low Self-confidence
almost losing sight of her initial goal, People who lack self-confidence usually you’ve done on a sticky note
Teacher Teoh finally became a school are quiet; Teacher Teoh mentions that and paste it somewhere visible
counsellor. She started this journey at Jit they are mostly shy and introverted. They Most cases of low self-confidence are 4. Surround yourself with
Sin Independent School before the strings won’t speak out or share their opinions usually caused by family culture. How, positive people

of fate brought her to Kuen Cheng this although they might be well versed on the you may ask? As young individuals, we
January. As if the fates themselves had topic, mostly in fear of getting judged by lack the ability to think on our own, Lastly, believe in yourself. You
planned this, Teacher Teoh has proven to other people in the conversation. They are often relying on the people around us to can do it!
be an exceptional teacher and counsellor. also usually perfectionists who are very help in the process. Eventually, we start

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