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with work. These are stuff that increases the number of love coins in love banks. On the                                        Then, Mr. Tan collected both  too, had them. His father had always waited
           contrary, if something negative happens within the family, such as when a parent scolds                                 parents’ and students’ respective opinions  for his child to finish his games before
           their children, love coins would be deducted from the love bank. Group awards and                                       about their current feelings when facing  turning the Wi-Fi off. However, the child

           punishments shall then be given accordingly.                                                                            each other. After that, he explained that  took all his parents’ sacrifices and patience
                                                                                                                                   teenagers tend to become more emotional  for granted.
                                                                                                                                   at the age of 13-14 due to brain development
                  Moving on, Mr. Tan discussed the differences between primary and secondary                                       and hormone swings. Their family and

           schools. The students claimed that in primary schools, they didn’t have to wake up as                                   environments were also one of the factors                 Mr. Tan reminded the student about
           early. They also claimed to not have exams in primary schools, but they are facing loads                                that affect their behaviour.                       how all his gaming equipment and Wi-Fi
           of quizzes and class tests after entering Kuen Cheng.                                                                                                                      were prepared by his parents, with their

                                                                                                                                                                                      money and time. It took just that much for
                                                                                                                                           After  that,  there  was  a  question  the student to realise that he was in fact
                  The first tip Mr. Tan provided was for students to give themselves some time                                     thrown to the participants: A 5-year-old  neglecting his parents’ kindness. He gave
           to adapt to the new environment. He admitted that secondary school is tougher than                                      child wanted to eat chocolates, but for his  a small nod. Mr. Tan then told the student

           primary school. Generally, they will take up to three months to get used to their new                                   own health’s good, he could only eat two.  that his parents had the right to restrict his
           school life. Students should stay optimistic. With time, they will gradually catch up.
                                                                                                                                   What do you think he would do? There were  gaming time. After several negotiations,
                                                                                                                                   interesting answers from a student and his  the case was finally settled.

                  Another tip shared by Mr. Tan was that both parents and students should often                                    parent.  The student chose  to  put all the
           share words of encouragement to boost students’ confidence. They should also be open                                    chocolates on the table, believing the child              Mr.  Tan  carried  on  by  asking
           to all new things. Practice looking at others’ strengths instead of focusing on their flaws,                            wouldn’t eat more than two. He thought             questions regarding the case: What did they
           and help out friends when they are facing difficulties. Also respect teachers and keep a                                a good parent would do so, and would               think the student actually needed? Was it

           positive attitude towards them. Last but not least, students ought to learn to share their                              allow the child to eat more chocolates if he       to  be  doted  on?  Guided?  Or  controlled?
           happiness and stress with their family members or seek help from their teachers. They                                   wanted to. Meanwhile, his parent would             Most of the students and parents chose
           are experienced adults that have gone through their ups and downs, they would be able                                   just give the child two chocolates, allowing       guidance, and Mr. Tan said that it was the
           to help them.                                                                                                           him to arrange his own time.                       right choice. It’s because being doted on

                                                                                                                                                                                      will cause the student to be weak and not

                                                                                                                                           Participants answered the question  skilled, while  being controlled will make
                                                                                                                                   from two  different views, allowing them  him inactive and have a hard time making
  GG!                                                                                                                              to share their ideas and understand each  choices. Therefore, if the student is cared

                                                                                                                                                                                      for and guided well, he will be active and
                                                                                                                                   other.
                                                                                                                                                                                      gain confidence in his daily activities.

                                                                                                                                           Following up, Mr. Tan talked about

                                                                                                                                   a case from several years ago. It was                     Mr. Tan went on to explain teenagers’
                                                                                                                                   about a male student who was addicted  brain development. Teenagers’ emotional
                                                                                                                                   to video games, resulting in poor dietary  part of their brain is five times more active
                                                                                                                                   and sleeping schedules. He would throw  compared to the thinking  part,  which

                                                                                                                                   tantrums whenever the Wi-Fi was turned  develops fully only when they reach the age
                                                                                                                                   off, so his parents accompanied him to Mr.  of 21. This will usually make them reckless,
                                                                                                                                   Tan’s office to have a talk. Mr. Tan realised  emotional, and lead them to seek pleasure,
                                                                                                                                   that not only the student had prominent  even if short-term, instead of bearing pain.

                                                                                                                                   dark circles under his eyes, but his father  So, parents should find a balance between

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